Mental Health

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Emotions are temporary; they come and go

How to Text Like an Alpha Male

Alpha males know exactly what they want. Alphas acknowledge their flaws and strengths but look for no one’s approval. But, how exactly you text like an alpha male?

Learn How to Text Like an Alpha Male

Texting is an excellent tool of communication, as it allows you to craft your responses. At times, texting can be annoying when you don’t get ignored or miss the tone of the conversation. Alpha males, often, insane results. It would be best if you have a positive mindset, such that, your thoughts correspond with the messages. Avoid incessant apologies, as this makes you look weak. Avoid asking vague questions. Alphas are good at making counter demands. You should be specific, and clear about your intentions. Let her know what you want, as most women fall for men by what they say. Be the one to end conversations.

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)

“People with BPD are like people with third-degree burns over 90% of their bodies. Lacking emotional skin, they feel agony at the slightest touch or movement.” Marsha Linehan


Borderline personality disorder is a mental health condition characterized by patterns of constantly changing moods, self-image, and behavior. Such symptoms impact an individual’s everyday routine; both in their work and social life. Persons with borderline personality disorder may experience periods of intense rage, depression, anxiety, and mood swings.

Signs and Symptoms

With the rapid mood swings, persons with borderline personality disorder may tend to feel uncertain on who they are, and how they relate to others. Therefore, their interests, opinions, and values may shift from time to time.  For instance, a person who was their friend this minute can be considered their enemy the next minute.

Persons with borderline personality disorder possess the following signs or symptoms:

  • Intense fear of being abandoned
  • Patterns of unstable relationships with friends and relatives – often swinging idealization to devaluation.
  • Distorted self-image
  • Impulsive behaviors, such as binge eating or being hypersexual  
  • Self-harming behavior
  • Recurring suicidal thoughts
  • Unpredictable moods, which may last up to several days after the onset
  • Prolonged feelings of emptiness
  • Aggressiveness
  • Difficulty in trusting others
  • Feelings of dissociation from reality

However, not every person will experience all these signs; some may show a few while others will experience more of these signs and symptoms; the severity of these signs differ. All these signs and symptoms can be triggered at varied circumstances. For instance, persons with borderline personality disorder are likely to be depressed, anxious and feel empty when they travel, minor separations, to different locations – away from their close friends and family.

Risk Factors

There is no known exact cause of borderline personality disorder. However, researchers hold that genetics, brain function, environmental, social and cultural factors play key roles in the development of borderline personality disorder.

  • Genetic factors: Persons from families with a history of mental illnesses or personality disorders are likely to develop the disorder.
  • Brain Abnormalities: Research studies suggest that individuals with this disorder often show structural and functional alterations in their brain – in the regions that regulate impulses and emotions. However, it is unclear whether the alterations are risk factors for this disorder, or they are as a result of the disorder.
  • Epigenetics: Some lifestyle factors such as environmental pollution, smoking, psychological stress, loneliness, and trauma may predispose a person to the development of borderline personality disorder. Epigenetics interfere with the oxytocin system often resulting in aggressiveness and prosocial behaviors.

Although these factors heighten the risk of developing the disorder, it may not be the case to everyone; some people without these factors can still develop borderline personality disorder.

Tests and Diagnosis

Licensed mental health practitioners – psychotherapists, pharmacists, social workers, and occupational therapists- can diagnose borderline personality disorder by;

  • Inquiring about family medical histories – including that of mental health
  • Conducting a thorough interview – majorly on the symptoms, they are experiencing
  • Performing a medical exam to rule out any other illnesses

It can be hard to diagnose borderline personality disorder because its symptoms overlap with those of other mental illnesses. Also, this disorder occurs in association with other mental illnesses such as bipolar disorder, depression, and anxiety.



Psychotherapy is the first-line of treatment for persons with various mental illnesses. Patients are able to interact with their therapists at both a personal level and group settings.

Therapists help persons with borderline personality disorder understand their condition, help them improve their interaction with other people, and guide them on how to go about their normal lives. Therefore, it imperative that persons with borderline personality disorder trust their therapists for effective treatment sessions.

Some of the psychotherapies used by most mental health professionals include:

  • Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT): This form of therapy aims at offering solutions to patients with borderline personality disorder. Therapists hold that a person’s thoughts and perceptions impact their behavior; they encourage persons with borderline personality disorder to challenge their distorted intuitions and vicious behavior.

CBT helps therapists to identify and assess harmful thoughts – they are able to employ the best strategies to help persons with borderline personality disorder to alleviate their situations.

  • Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT): Persons with borderline personality disorders are taught how to cope with stressful situations, emotions, and how to improve their relationship with others while living in the moment.

Individuals with the disorders are expected to participate in one of the following therapeutic settings;

  • Individual therapies with professionals
  • Classrooms – to be taught and do assignments on behavioral skills
  • Phone coaching


There are no known medications that have been approved by the Food and Drug Administration (FDA) for the treatment of borderline personality disorders. However, therapists administer drugs that can alleviate the signs and symptoms associated with the disorder- they are able to manage depression, anxiety, and impulsiveness using antidepressants, antipsychotics and mood stabilizers.

Talk to your therapist if you experience any drug side effects.


People with borderline personality disorder recover when given the appropriate treatment. Their signs and symptoms improve over time since the first diagnosis- there is a likelihood that they can fully recover.

Most people go about their normal lives after treatment – except for a few who struggle with recurring symptoms even after treatment.

Panic Attacks: What to Do About Them!

“Don’t assume I’m weak because I have panic attacks. You will never know the amount of strength it takes to face the world everyday”*****Unknown*****

Panic attacks can happen at random; anywhere and at any time. You may feel nervous and terrified, even if you are not in any sort of danger.

Although the exact cause is not yet known, severe stress and medications are thought to trigger panic attacks. The attacks are said to be genetic – run in families.

Often, panic attack symptoms last up to 10 minutes and later subside. However, the symptoms may persist long enough to interfere with your daily activities. It may be difficult to tell when one episode ends, and when another begins.

It’s estimated that one in every 10 U.S citizens experience these attacks annually; one-thirds of the population develop the panic attacks in their lifetime. Notably, women are at a higher risk of getting the attacks than men.

You might be having a panic attack if you have more than four of these symptoms;

To alleviate these symptoms, visit a doctor or a psychotherapist – there is treatment.

They may recommend one or a combination of these;

  • Therapy

With cognitive behavioral therapy, you will be able to go past the negative thoughts that would trigger the panic attacks. You will gain a clearer perspective of the present and future.

  • Medications

Anti-depressants work quite well in alleviating the symptoms. They may only be prescribed for a short-term as you try to adopt other strategies.

  • Lifestyle changes

You may be advised to cut back on stimulants e.g., caffeine. Self-help strategies – exercising, taking deep breaths and desensitization – may go an extra mile in managing your symptoms.

I would advise you talk to your friends, family or doctor about your condition – your symptoms and how often the panic attacks occur. Talking is the first step to relief!

Be Yourself!

“I believe that imagination is stronger than knowledge; myth is more potent than history; dreams are more powerful than facts; hope always triumphs over experience; laughter is the cure for grief; love is stronger than death.”—Robert Fulghum